Forty-two-year-old Kevin Cheng (鄭嘉穎) has been single for a long time. Eager to date, get married, and have children, Kevin wished to enter another stage in life. Despite his eagerness, the first step in choosing a partner was setting the criteria. Between beauty and wisdom, he would prefer to choose a smart woman. Since marriage was for a lifetime, Kevin noted, “I’ll go without than settle for someone shabby (寧缺勿濫)!”“At my age, why would I not wish to date? It’s a very normal thing to do. Actually, I do not mind revealing my dating status as long as it is not at the outset of the relationship. In a relationship, you need to go through a bit of understanding before dating. When the dating relationship has stabilized, then it is okay to reveal it. Oftentimes, the relationship did not reach that stable period yet, then how can I reveal it? I do not mind openly dating and will not get married secretly. If I were to get married, I will notify everyone. If I were to have children, I do not mind letting others know but please do not photograph them; this is [for their privacy] and to protect them!”
Need to Be Extra Cautious
“At my age, I no longer need to worry about a wife and children affecting my image. I am no longer 18 or 22-years-old. However, I can not rush it and have to encounter the right person first. Due to my old age, I need to be extra cautious. If I encounter an incompatible wife and there is a need to get divorced, it would be such a headache! I hope to be successfully in one attempt and have several children!
“Regarding the selection criteria for a partner, the most important thing is compatibility so that we can be friends, able to talk about anything and discuss matters reasonably. It would be great for a woman to have both beauty and wisdom; however, if I had to choose, I would prefer wisdom. In reality, a love relationship’s passion will dwindle over the long-term. If we can remain friends, then our relationship can endure. When the children grow up, they will not accompany you for the rest of your life. In old age, spouses will support each other, so it is most important to find someone who you can talk to.
“My life is like this right now; I have to continuously divide my time between Hong Kong and China. People ask me what is the difference between Hong Kong and mainland girls. I said that the only difference is one speaks Cantonese and the other Mandarin!”
Source: Oriental Daily
Translated by: Jayne @ JayneStars
